Wednesday, April 01, 2009

Not so(Wordless Wednesday) 20 years later

The picture above was going to be my Wordless Wednesday Picture for the week. It was taken Spring of 1990. It was me and my Jr Prom date before heading off to prom. But I can't be wordless today.. Because I have a story to tell.. The Story of my first date..

This was me in High School.. Though this was taken my senior year and this story will take place my sophomore year. But I didn't have any older pictures of me already online and I don't have time to go digging for them.

This is B.. the boy in the story.
This will be a bit long so pull up a chair grab something to drink and lets begin.

.. I remember my very 1st date ever like it was yesterday.

Date: April 1, 1989

My Age: 16 years old

Place: Dinner and a movie

With who: B.

His Age: 19 years old

B. was a guy from my church who I had a crush on for as long as I could remember. When he was in 6th grade and I was in 3rd I told my best friend that one day I was going to marry B, and she just LOL at me and said, Yeah right that would be the day..

Jump ahead many many years to my freshmen year in high school(B's Senior year) I use to walk out of my way just to pass him in the hallways between classes I use to make my friends crazy wanting to enter the building on the totally opposite side of where I had classes just so he would say HI to me as we passed each other, or have him mess with my hair as he walked passed me. You see he thought of me as sort of a kid sister, but hey I would take what I could get, because I had a huge crush on him.

Sadly he ALWAYS had a girlfriend and I was this geeky freshmen, with the big glasses, bad perm and zits.(I paint a pretty picture of myself No, but it was all true) He only talked to me because we had been friends for so long. We were in the same youth group in church until he moved up to Teens and then a few years later we were in the same Teen club at church.. He was also best friends with one of my neighbors, he was always over there so we hung out.

The summer after he graduated high school he was hanging out at my house alot with his friend(we had a swimming pool the friend didn't) and he was between girlfriends I was thinking OH YEAH here is my chance.. Then one night it dark already I was out in my back yard swimming under the one light we had back there and B and friend came over and we started talking. B was being his flirty self and i was loving it then he said "oh did I tell you I meet this girl"UGH!!!!!!!!! At that point I just hated him.

About 2 or 3 months later that relationship was over.. Since we were friends we not only shared the "I meet this girl" sort of stuff but I would go to him for advice on my "boyfriends" also.. we had been doing this sort of stuff with each other for years. So I gave up figured there is just no way he was ever going to look at me any other way then just his kid sister. Even though I gave up I couldn't stop having feelings for him, though I tried.

Jump ahead to that February and I had 3 or 4 girls coming to my house asking me if I knew where he was. It was his birthday and they all wanted to wish him a happy birthday.. I was soooooooooooo sick of this stuff at that point. This one girl said I know you will see him before I do so can you give him this card for me.(UGH YUCK...) I smiled said sure, she left and I tossed the card into the fire place(I was bad that way LOL) It was at that point I figured I couldn't do this anymore.. I was either going to hate him or love him..

March rolled around and we had gotten a little closer and was flirting a bit more with each other. He asked me to go with his basketball team to this church tournament(anyone ever hear of Word Of Life?? if so it was that sort of basketball tournament) I went as the team score keeper but I thought I was going more like a sort of 'I like you' sort of way with him.. like a little more then friends I found out later that was the case though that day after getting there I thought I had be mistaken. See this girl was there that he meet the year before at this tournament and she liked him and kept flirting with him and hanging on him it ticked me off. A guy I use to have a thing for was on B's team so I just went and started hanging out with him.. I found out years later that me hanging out with J totally ticked B off and it was at that point that he stopped thinking of me as that kid sister.

Anyways back to the story..this was the early part of March..

I was so ticked at B after that basketball tournament that I stopped talking to him and HE was so upset with me that he wasn't going to talk to me anymore either. ONLY at the end of March I was walking home from school one day and saw him at my neighbors looking so hot in these cute tight black short..(oopes mom don't read that part) ONLY he was on Crutches and had his foot all wrapped up.. I went home telling myself.."you are not talking to him he is a jerk don't talk to him don't talk to him" but I couldn't help myself.. I went over to see what he did to his foot. (he landed on it wrong after coming down for dunking the basketball) That started us talking again.

The next day he stopped by my house this time without my neighbor. That was a first.. he use to hang at my place but only when his friend was there this time he came over just to hang with me. We were talking about movies and stuff and he mentioned he saw this movie the night before that I wanted to go and see. I said "UGH.. all these people are going to see that and no one has invited me to go with them what is up with that" he said "why don't you and I go and see it Saturday" My heart stopped.. ONLY I had never been on a date before and to top it off my Parents didn't like B. They didn't like the way he flirted with all the girls and how all the girls threw themselves at him.(my parents were youth leaders and helped in teen club at church so they were at alot of our activities so they seen the flirting of him with many girls) So i really didn't think my dad would say yes. I asked B if I could take my friend K along with us and he said sure.. So I asked my parents if it would be ok if B took K and I to see that movie on Saturday and dad said that would be ok.(then later Dad told me he would have said yes even if I wouldn't have been taking K oh well)

Anyways on April 1, 1989 B and I and K went to see Bill & Ted's Excellent Adventure (1989) (yeah don't laugh I wanted to see it) I sat in the middle of B and K and during the movie B kept leaning over to say stuff like "watch this you'll like this part" some how during one of the time he tapped me on the arm to tell me "watch this" we ended up holding hand. Up until that point I really wasn't sure if he had asked me to this movie as a friend because I said I wanted to see it, or if this was a date at that point i knew it was a date. Afterwards we went to Pizza Hut, While there I took My friend K into the restroom and was all excited was going on and on about B holding my hand and all that. Like any supportive friend she asked me "WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH YOU, this is B, you don't want any part of this" I was thinking 'what! um hello!! I walked out of my way all last year at school just to pass this guy in the hallway heck yes, I want a part of This' So me and K got into a fight over this and she was not happy with me the rest of the night. Anyways we ate pizza and talked and then dropped K off at her house and drove around a bit listening to the radio then He dropped me off that was the end of my First Date... NO I did not kiss him on the 1st date.(I waited for 2 days after the 1st date ;P)

That Was 20 Years Ago.. today!!!!!!

A little more to this story...

A week after our 1st date we went out, again movie and then Pizza. This time we meet up with his best friend and girlfriend for the movie and pizza then headed home alone It was 10:45pm and the Bangle song Eternal Flame came on the radio and he said, to me "remember this day, remember this time, and remember this song, because this is the day I'm going to ask you to wear my class ring" Sort of corny I know but it was sooooooooooo sweet back then LOL. That was April 8, 1989

Jump ahead 20 years and we are still together.

We had our ups and downs and breaks up and he and I both went out with other people a time or two along the way, but our longest break up was only 3 months. So we don't count our break ups when we count how long we have been together because even when we were broke up we were still talking every day(well if you call yelling and screaming at each other talking LOL)It has been really fun and I wouldn't change a thing.

I now call B my husband of 15 years come Oct 29,09 and daddy to all our kids.

Happy 20 years Baby.. I love you.
This awful picture of me but cute of him.. was taken by Princess late one night in Jan 2009

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Lizzie said...

that is such a great story! you have an AMAZING memory :)

I love that you have pictures from back then.

Rachel said...

OMG!!!! (As Princess would say) What an awesome story. You should so write a book.

Heather said...

I love your recollection of this story. It made me laugh.. What a great love story! I can't believe all the details you can remember after having 4 kids! My mommy brain doesn't allow me to remember things mid-sentence let alone details from 20years ago! Happy 20 years! We always celebrate our date anniversary more so than our wedding anniversary since our wedding is news years eve.

palmtreefanatic said...

that was beautiful!
Happy WW!

Fantastagirl said...

Happy 20 years - and great story - I love your no-so wordless Wednesdays...

Carol VR said...

I loved the fact that your put words to the pictures... very cool story.

Jean said...

Great story! I love how we met and married stories.

palmtreefanatic said...

such a sweet story! Great post! cheers to 20 yrs!

Courtney said...

Oh how sweet...I love it!